When you separate from someone you once loved and whom you still respect you may consider that the collaborative process is right for you.
If you have children, you can engage a Child Consultant who may talk with your children in an appropriate situation. Children feel supported and will be able to make more sense of their situation given that Mum and Dad have decided to separate. Benefits for your children can be that they feel they are listened to and that their needs and concerns may be considered by their parents who are making decisions about where they should live and spending time with each parent and they will be helped to understand the major decisions are not their responsibility.
When you meet with your Collaborative Lawyer for the first time it is your opportunity to explain how you feel and what is important to you while learning more about the Collaborative process.
Most clients are sorry they have found themselves in the situation of separating and are hopeful to remain on good speaking terms with their former husband/ wife or defacto partner. It is the resolution of issues in a respectful and honest manner that attracts most clients to this process and, the fact that you have a team of professionals working independently and together as a team to assist your family as a whole. Did I mention that it is quicker than going to Court and in most cases a lot cheaper than going to Court on a final hearing? No one feels happy when a Judge gives a ruling that cost a fortune to arrive at and hasn’t considered everything that you feel is of concern to you. Obtaining a resolution on your own and with all the information available to you in a secure place can make you feel cared for, supported and comforted knowing that you and your ex partner or spouse have done the right thing together for yourselves and your family.
You and your partner/spouse can also engage a collaboratively trained Financial Planner to assist so that each of you takes the financial direction that is most appropriate for your situation and your financial objectives. The Australian Bureau of Statistics 2014 has stated that, ” For the 48,000 Australians who go through it each year, divorce can be devastating both emotionally and financially. But the right financial planning can help.”
The Coach is the Manager in your Collaborative team. He/ She can be relied upon to guide you and assist each participant with any emotional issues as well as providing insight into the needs and concerns you may have for yourself, your children and what to do moving forward. He/She is pivotal as the independent professional in the collaborative meetings held to discuss and resolve your family law matters whether they be parenting, property or both.
The process itself confirms that the Court system has failed and that there is a better way to resolve family law matters following separation and divorce by contracting not to go to Court.
How would you like to be in control of your own family law matters? You will have your own legal adviser, committed to you, but also with a keen eye on collaborating with your ex- partner and his or her collaborative lawyer to obtain a fair division of property and a parenting regime where your children’s needs are met and giving you as a parent some strategies to employ. You can even agree together on financial support or accommodation for your children who are over 18 years but are still living at home or studying. The Court does not take your older children into account when considering parenting orders.
If heading for divorce or life as a single is stressful, have a think about taking some of the stress out and utilising a process where you are listened to and what you are worried or concerned about is understood by people who are trained in a special way to help you and your family have a brighter future. Here at Gentles Family Lawyers you are important to us and giving you the right legal advice and access to other professionals who can assist you is one of our top goals. We will take the time to understand your needs and concerns. If you have any questions, please contact either Ioanita Gentles or Glenda Johnstone on 9977 0889